tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26604821.post3593570855193620729..comments2023-10-29T06:57:17.788-04:00Comments on Life As I Know It: I didn't know it was this hardTashahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06786633339092945973noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26604821.post-26074852664853970552007-07-16T22:31:00.000-04:002007-07-16T22:31:00.000-04:00What an honest description of what it's like adjus...What an honest description of what it's like adjusting to being married! I know I struggled with the same sort of issues when my husband and I were newlyweds so I can't imagine how much more complicated having kids makes it. But it won't always be so hard. Don't get discouraged.a happier girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09946104296368823743noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26604821.post-22803516028896755342007-07-10T19:28:00.000-04:002007-07-10T19:28:00.000-04:00I agree with the others. Make sure you TALK about...I agree with the others. Make sure you TALK about it. You have to keep the lines of communication open. Tell him how you are feeling and why you are feeling that way. Then, agree to always discuss major issues with each other before either of you make a decision. Again, communication and honesty. That's the key, I think. Oh, and be patient with yourself (and each other!) This is a big adjustment for both of you. It will take time to adjust, but soon your new marriage will "fit" like an old pair of jeans! LOL Good luck.Tanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08331107306004381236noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26604821.post-69041588185166571182007-07-09T02:41:00.000-04:002007-07-09T02:41:00.000-04:00I say talk it over with Chris, let him know how yo...I say talk it over with Chris, let him know how you're feeling. Marriages are hard work.Michelle Fluttering Butterflieshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08793681725475475156noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26604821.post-75705136633512621032007-07-07T14:30:00.000-04:002007-07-07T14:30:00.000-04:00I think Lori is right. I'm a control freak too and...I think Lori is right. I'm a control freak too and even though I'm not married nor have kids, when Kenny moved into MY apartment, I had very little control to give up. When we moved into OUR house, it was both our's and I was no longer in complete control of everything. I think it's normal whenever there is change to feel that way. No one wants to feel like they lose control, but if Chris makes a mistake and the decision he made wasn't the best one, you'll have to trust that he did it because he thought he was making the best decision for you and the girls, and forgive and move on. I think that's the hardest part. Just hang in there Tasha. I wish I could tell you how marriage goes, but I can't, and even those who have been married don't have all the answers. I'm guessing it's like a trial and error....you try something a little out of your comfort zone (like sharing the control) and then when you are comfortable with it and you see things are okay, you continue moving in the same direction. I know that's how I would have to get through it....you will find the answer, whether it's from a blogger friend, a family member, yourself, or a combination of both. You WILL figure it out! (((HUGS))) Can't wait to have lunch soon!!Lindseyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10840723773165152629noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26604821.post-1233206082521101932007-07-07T11:41:00.000-04:002007-07-07T11:41:00.000-04:00I think you are just an independent woman - I mean...I think you are just an independent woman - I mean you managed on your own WITH a child for years by yourself! It is hard to give up control when you are used to being the decision maker. I have the same problem b/c I've been on my own for awhile now. I worry about the same stuff when I remarry...I think your feelings are normal and you should acknowledge them and talk to Chris about them so he knows what you are feeling/thinking. It is so hard for those of us who haven't leaned on others to let someone take care of things...I don't know if I'm helping! ha! My opinion is to talk to Chris and just try to be open to letting go a little ~ might take some of the stress off of you! :-)<BR/>Try not to worry! Hugs!Lorihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06159336665350752308noreply@blogger.com