Here is a new pic of Alanna. She is sitting up now. She started to master the task over memorial weekend. As gorgeous as Alanna is she's not very photogenic. It takes awhile before I find a pic that I like. This one is okay, see her "cow lick" sticking up on her head. No matter what I do its there.
Now lets talk about Hannah. My sweet angel baby, Hannah is not so angel anymore. I was trying to avoid the subject in hope of it going away, but I don't think its gonna. Okay the story...Last Sunday we all know that I felt like poop because me and Chris went out together on Saturday. Well Hannah wanted to play outside and I don't let her outside by herself yet, so I asked my neighbor friend(who has a little boy Hannah's age and they play together all the time) to watch Hannah for about an hour. Well I went outside to check on her about an hour later and Hannah was walking home with the neighbor crying. I asked her what happened.
*NAMES HAVE BEEN CHANGED TO PROTECT MY INNOCENCE*
*ALL CAPS IS ME YELLING, AND TRYING TO KEEP MY COOL*
Hannah: Susan* (the crazy lady that lives on the corner, well shes not crazy, but weird so thats what we all call her) pushed me.
ME: WHAT!!!!!!! SHE PUSHED YOU???????
Hannah: tear-yes-tear
Me: HANNAH SHE PUSHED YOU??????
Hannah: tear-yes mommy-tear-tear
Me: I DON'T (insert every swear word you can imagine) THINK SO!!!
So what did I do?...I walk over to *Susan, and say
Me: Excuse me Miss *Susan, Hannah said that you pushed her?
*Susan: I didn't push no f#cking body!
Me: Well there is no need to swear and Hannah is over there crying because she said you pushed her, and yelled at her.
*Susan: Well Hannah is a cry baby
Me: LOOK *Susan I am just trying to talk to you, there is no need for name calling of a 6 year old when you are like 60 yourself!
*Susan: Well Hannah was riding *Scotts bike (neighbors friends little boy, who was watching Hannah) and she never lets anyone ride her own, so I yelled at her
Me: YES, WELL I DON'T REMEMBER ASKING YOU TO WATCH MY CHILD OR SCOLD HER IF YOU THINK IT NEEDS TO BE DONE!
*Susan: Well I thought that I should
Me: WELL I AM SO HAPPY TO HEAR THAT YOU THINK YOU SHOULD SPEAK TO MY CHILD, BUT I THINK THAT I CAN HANDLE PUNISHING MY OWN CHILD IF NEED BE, ALSO I DON'T THINK YOU TOUCHING MY CHILD IN ANYWAY WILL BE TOLERATED AND IF YOU TOUCH HER AGAIN YOU WILL HAVE TO CALL THE POLICE BECAUSE I WILL BE ALL OVER YOU!
*Susan: Well Hannah is a cry baby and you need to keep her away from me.
Me: TRUST ME HANNAH WILL NOT BOTHER YOU AND YOU LEAVE HER ALONE, AGAIN DO NOT TOUCH MY CHILD, DO NOT LOOK AT MY CHILD, AND DO NOT SPEAK TO MY CHILD!
More happened but thats whats important....
So you may think that if a person EVER touches you child you would pounce on them...well remember Hannah is not my angel anymore so listen what happens next...I am not a confrontational person and was shaking so badly. I tried to keep my cool, but dealing with this lady is unreal. My mom lives about 6 house down so I grab Hannah and walk over there to cool down. I tell my mom and step dad what just happens and my step dad (who claims hes not a papa, but is the worlds greatest grandpa EVER) wants to call the police for assault. Then Hannah says, weeeelll, mom she didn't exactly push me.
ME: WHAT Hannah, WHAT DO you mean she didn't exactly push you?
Hannah: Weeeellll she kinda just yelled.
ME: WHAT THE F#CK ARE YOU TALKING ABOUT HANNAH, I JUST YELLED AND MADE A SCENE IN FRONT OF ALL THE NEIGHBORS!
Hannah: Mom she did yell at me though!
OH MY GOD!!!! Hannah lied to me about the whole thing. I protected my daughter and she lied about the WHOLE THING!
I made her sit in her room the rest of the day.
THEN the next day at daycare, daycare calls me at work to tell me that Hannah lied to her about who had the toy 1st. I made Hannah have a time out at daycare.
THEN today as I was picking up the girls from where else, daycare, and they made Hannah tell me that she lied again not once today oh no not just once but 6 TIMES! What am I going to do? I don't even know how to deal with this. So I made Hannah go straight to her room and sit on her bed with no toys until I could figure out a punishment. I didn't think that this stage came until a few years down the road. When Hannah looks at me and shes mad at me, I lose it. I don't know a decent punishment I should give her. I told her she is grounded for the weekend, no outside, no computer. Also she has to sit at daycare ALL day tomorrow and is not allowed to play with the kids. I also put soap in her mouth tonight. Did I do to much? Did I do enough? What should I do? H~E~L~P!!
She's no angel right now, that's for sure!! I don't think you punished her too much. What does she say when you ask her why she lied? There must be a reason why she's feeling the need to lie....the trouble is, it might not be easy to figure out! I would be just as angry as you are Tasha. When my students lie, I get POed and it's hard to remember they're only 7 and then I have to figure out why they are lying and go from there. Not fun stuff, that's for sure! What happened today with her?
ReplyDeleteI have never been there but I think you did the right thing, going overboard the first time may make her think twice the next time she decides she wants to lie. Although you yelling at the neighbor should have been done anyway because she did yell at her, which still is grounds for some a$$ chewing. How did she do the next day at daycare when she couldn't play, did the daycare stick by your punishment?
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