The one where I rant on about family

The wedding count down is in 4 months. Can you believe it? During the holidays I put the wedding off, so I could concentrate of Thanksgiving, Christmas and New years. Well now that they are over I am starting to stress a liitle. The wedding shower is in 2 months, my bachlorette party is in 3 months and then the wedding. there is so much that I have to do, but don't know where to start. I still need to pick out flowers, buy shower and wedding invits, find a person to alter mine and Hannah's dress, find a pattern for Alanna's dress, register for the shower, buy shoes for us girls, buy a veil, get Chris is tux, help my maids get their dresses, and complete the guest list. And I know for a fact that I have forgotten some other things.

I'm starting to get really flustered with whats going on. My maid of honor has came up with a great idea for the wedding shower. She is planning a "french bistro" themed brunch. She is going to make all the food and decorate. She is great. A few un-named people in my life have expressed their views on my shower to be a little un nice. The menu for the party will be a french toast bake, an egg and potato bake, muffins, danishes, friut, hashbrowns, cake, eclairs and cookies, punch, coffee and water. I have checked with everyone for allergies, likes and dislikes. With a total of 40 or so people coming it is hard to please everyone. This said person has stated she will not eat any of the food and I should have differnt food and a different time on a different day....oh and lets just change the entire thing while we are at it. The whole point is to try something new and different. A nice brunch for the people that I love to buy me things for my house and marriage....right? (I know I sound spoiled and ungrateful in that line, but that pretty much sums up what a shower is, right?) Everyone tells me to do things the way I want because HELLO I am the one getting married. She had her time 16 years ago. But its hard, and its hard to please everyone and now I know for sure that a few people will be unhappy, and now I'm not so sure what to do. when I told said person about the time and day, she had the nerve to say...you know people may not come because its early. Its at 11:30, if someone cannot drag their lazy ass out of bed to come to the shower one day, then they obviously the whole wedding doesn't mean that much to them, and that is fine they don't need to be there. I wish I could just tell her not to come if she feels that way. She has given me negativity from the beginning. She is the one who said I should be married, she is the one who said I should plan longer, she is the one who said that I should have the wedding closer to her, she is the one who said I need to have different food. Can I catch a break? Can I just have a step mom that is happy for me?